8 Reasons Why Couples Stop Making Love


    Any romantic relationship must have intimacy, but there are several reasons why couples may decide to cease making love. Resolving the issue and reigniting the passion requires an understanding of these causes.

    Here are eight common reasons why couples might find themselves in a physical intimacy rut:

    Stress and Exhaustion

    One’s sexual desire may be affected by physical tiredness, job stress, and everyday demands. In times of extreme stress, the desire for closeness frequently wanes. “Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle” by Emily and Amelia Nagoski provides insights into recognizing and dealing with stress and can be a useful resource for stress management practices.


    Communication Breakdown

    Intimacy may decline as a result of closed communication. Couples may find it difficult to communicate their needs to one another or may feel ignored. Gary Chapman’s book “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts” is an excellent tool for enhancing communication and comprehending your partner’s needs.


    Health Issues

    Medication, hormonal fluctuations, and medical disorders can all affect libido. Seeking guidance and treatment from a healthcare professional is crucial. Emily Nagoski’s book “Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life” offers insightful information for a greater knowledge of how intimacy is impacted by health.

    Emotional Disconnect

    Resentment, distrust, and unresolved conflicts are examples of emotional problems that can cause a decline in physical closeness. Dr. Sue Johnson’s book “Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love,” which focuses on attachment and emotional connection, can be a useful resource for couples.

    Lifestyle Factors

    Bad lifestyle decisions, such as eating poorly, exercising seldom, and drinking too much alcohol, can have a detrimental effect on libido. Bessel van der Kolk’s “The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma” provides insights on how physical well-being influences all aspects of life, including intimacy, for couples striving to better their overall health and wellness.

    Parenting Challenges

    The responsibilities of parenting often leave little time or energy for intimacy, particularly when dealing with little children. John and Julie Schwartz Gottman’s book “And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives” offers helpful guidance for striking a balance between parenting and upholding a happy marriage.

    Routine and Boredom

    Boredom in the bedroom might result from routines. It’s critical to keep things interesting and to take joint risks. Esther Perel’s book “Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence” delves at the topic of maintaining passion and desire in committed partnerships.

    Lack of Self-Esteem

    Low self-esteem or problems with one’s body might make one feel ugly and reduce their desire for sexual activity. “The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love” by Sonya Renee Taylor is an inspirational book for enhancing self-esteem and appreciating one’s body. Couples can address the underlying problems and try to rekindle their physical connection by being aware of these factors. Recall that having a healthy relationship includes making love and that you may reignite the passion in your relationship with work and understanding.